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21-Day Fast from Complaining

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21-Day Fast from Complaining

Do you ever wake up in the morning and regret that you don’t have one more hour of sleep? You get up and prepare for a day at work and lament that you haven’t gotten promoted after three years of dedicated diligence and an impeccable attendance record. You frown at seeing your superiors because you loathe his/her direction. And as you sit in morning rush hour contemplating on how dissatisfied you have become with your life, you become outraged with how slow the traffic is moving. This becomes the typical start of your Monday morning, a routine that has become so customary to you that you’ve grown to see nothing wrong with it.

You’ve accepted pity and grief as suitable emotions. Faith and gratefulness suffer lack. In the book of Job, a servant speaks of worrisome nights and days swifter than a weaver’s shuttle. He speaks of living without hope. He complains of Christ not being by his side and how his own life has become a burden to him. He speaks of choosing death over life. “Therefore I will not refrain my mouth; I will speak in the anguish of my spirit; I will complain in the bitterness of my soul.”(Job 7:11). He begins to question “And why dost thou not pardon my transgression, and take away mine iniquity? For now shall I sleep in the dust; and thou shalt seek me in the morning, but I shall not be. (Job 7:21). His view of life was one of great displeasure and criticism. The gift of life that God has given him is being disregarded. It is no longer considered a gift, but a burden. This is not any different than the way you may feel about your job, your home and finances, your relationship, or even your confidence about your personality or appearance.

What we as Christians must remember is that life is not meant to be easy. Your success is measured by your faith, your dedication to Christ, and your ability to share your testimony amongst others. A synopsis of what I just said would be to simply stop complaining. Stop expressing grief, discomfort, and discontent for all that your life has become or all that you possess in life.

It’s time to test your ability to thank God for what you have, and pray for more. “A faithful man shall abound with blessing; but he that maketh haste to be rich shall not be innocent.”(Proverbs 28:20), it goes on to say; “He that hasteth to be rich hath an evil eye, and considereth not that poverty shall come upon him.”(Proverbs 28:22). Testing your ability, tests your faithfulness to Jesus Christ. So I recommend starting your spiritual growth with him by initializing a spiritual fast.

Fasting can be defined as an act of denying something physical to glorify God and go deeper with him in the spirit. Biblically, fasting is abstaining from food, drink, sleep, or sex to focus on a period of spiritual growth. You choose to deny something of the flesh to glorify God, enhance your spirit, and go deeper in your prayer life. In this case, instead of abstaining from something physical, abstain from something mental to gain a little more self control.

Will Bowen, a Kansas City minister, challenged his congregation to go 21 days without complaining. I would like to challenge you the same. Thus, I call “The 21-day Fast from Complaining.” He challenged them to place a purple bracelet on their right arm, and every time they complained, they were to move the bracelet to the left arm and start from day zero.

Now lets define complain. According to dictionary.com, it means to express dissatisfaction, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or grief; find fault. So basically, expressing negativity. Your goal is to refrain from expressing negativity. Jesus endured the most brutal death known to man for you. As they beat him over and over again with whips, place a thorned crown on his head, and nailed his hands and feet to the cross, he had your best interest in mind and he did not complain once. He knew no sin, spoke of no negativity, and suffered for your sins. So think before you complain. Tell yourself, if Jesus could make it through that tragedy, then I can make it through this tribulation. Gain a deeper relationship with him by renouncing from discontent and showing gratitude for his sacrifice.

So then on Monday morning, when your alarm goes off, jump out of bed and thank him for another day. And as you think about your well overdue promotion, you remember three years ago when you were unemployed and desperately seeking employment. You thank god for your job and pray for a promotion. And as you sit in morning rush hour, you thank God for giving you a vehicle to get back and forth to work.
Give God the glory, show appreciation for the gift that God gives you every morning, that gift is another day. Initiate your “21-day Fast from Complaining” to build a compelling relationship with God “…..Worthy is the lamb that was slain to receive power, and riches, and wisdom, and strength, and honour, and glory, and blessing. (Revelation 5:12)

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5 Ways to Minimize Mediocrity

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5 Ways to Minimize Mediocrity

According to the IOE dictionary, mediocrity means thinking or experiencing beneath your inherent right or privilege. I realized a long time ago about the self-fulfilling prophecies that accompany the thoughts of mediocrity. Whether it is a family member, a teacher, a co-worker or a so called friend, people can help to plant these subliminal messages of mediocrity into our spirits which will enable us to think as they see us. What I know for sure, is that those thoughts can prevent us from ever walking into the greatness that we want for ourselves if we don’t call our friends, loved ones, etc out on the thoughts that they think toward us. It may not have seemed like a big deal when your best friend crushed your dream; maybe you weren’t even really sure that you really wanted that to happen in your life. So with his/her disbelief ingrained subconsciously in your mind, you began to talk yourself out of that which you greatly desired. Sound familiar?

Maybe it’s not you I’m talking about. I (I’ll tell on myself!) spent a lot of time around Incredible SNATCHERS, those people who were sent to negate all talent and confidence that has been earmarked and reserved for my success and I allowed their thoughts toward me to sway me from my dream until I realized that my purpose doesn’t change because people don’t have faith enough to believe that it can/will happen in my life and at that moment, I began to minimize mediocrity in my life.

I decided that I with the help and grace of God would be the comander of my fate. I decided that I could do anything to which i put my mind and that I would become a BBB – Belief Barrier Breaker. Because of that mind shift, there are so many things that I have acccomplished that I should not even be here to do. I graduated high school, the first and only in my family and I am not the oldest. I have a college degree, I own my own home, I have my own small business that is thriving, and the list goes on and on. I do not share these things to brag on me, I share them to empower you to believe that anything is possible when you remove mediocrity from your vocabulary. Maybe under achieving is okay for some, but why do you have to under achieve when you have a desire to achieve greatness?

To help you to shift from mediocre to magnificent, I have included a few quick tips that will make all the difference:


Define who you are based on your own goals, wants and desires. No one else should be able to determine your worth. To give your self an honest assessment and write out your personal declaration, which will include who you are today and who you are in the future, you will need to spend some quiet time with yourself in an environment that is conducive to positive thought and self-reflection.


Minimize your associations with people who don’t believe in you. Every day in life, we are faced with tons of choices – what to wear, what to eat, what to watch on TV, listen to on the radio, who to spend our time with. Make an empowering choice by deciding that you are worth more than the garbage you subconsciously plant in your mind. Remember, your imput determines your output. Let’s keep it real, some of your friends are garbage, they stink and you need to take them out. What I mean is, there are television shows, books and radio stations that were created for your edification. Spend time filling yourself with positive, life giving affirmations and entertainment choices. Tell me, what good does knowing the latest dance do for the Incredible in You? I think you get my point.


Speak the Incredible, I know this may sound crazy but what you speak about you will bring about. I talk about this in great detail because it is so important. If you don’t have anything empowering to say, don’t say anything at all. If you want to live, you must learn to speak life. When you learn to speak the incredible you will find your own life giving words of affirmation as a roadmap to discovering the Incredible things that await you when you learn to speak with authority, passion, abundance, confidence and expectation.


Do something everyday that leads to your goals and dreams. Maybe it will be a baby step, but a step in the right direction will ultimately land you where you want to be! Keep walking with belief in your heart and action in your plan and you will land in the Incredible. Habits create character altering behaviors and if it becomes your habit to do something each day to break the cycle of mediocrity, it will break expeditiously. I learned that when I fed my dreams each day by writing faith confessions and believed those things that I wrote down, little by little I saw the fear eliminating itself from my life.


Practice. Prior practice prevents piss poor performance. Practice your life as you want it. Start small, if that makes it easier. If you want to change your negative attitude, slowly stop the amount of “don’ts, no’s, I can’ts,” etc that you utter or think over the course of a day. If you want to minimize mediocrity, you have to do it anyway. No matter what it looks like, you have to walk in faith and reduce the sensation of fear. Fear is mediocrity. It holds you captive and prevents you from the possibility of success.

Remember, minimizing mediocrity is a choice and it is your choice alone. Do not let anyone else talk you out of your dreams – they are yours for a reason. If the dream has been placed in your heart, it is your non-negotiable decision to see it through.

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